NIGERIA AND YOU
TAKING ABUJA FOR EXAMPLE.
Abuja is probabaly the worst-hit of Nigerian cities by this recession. It is only understandable: Abuja works at nothing but revels in wanton opulence, fed strictly from pens adding zeroes behind a whole number. It's buildings are populated with straw companies gliding on patronage and privilege, not rights, merit and productivity. Most of its inhabitants are currently in what seems a state of disbelief, if not shock.
My son and I walked lazily to Sheraton two Saturdays ago and from the gate you got a surprise: no line of traffic! The lounge was empty as the car park was vacant. We sat in surprise at the little corners of decay creeping on the lounge, part of which was even poorly lit. Of course, even Maitama and Asokoro are wrapped in thick darkness these days at 8pm if grid power fails.
I was surprised at the black silence I met in these desolate palaces. Everywhere signs hang on homes and high-rise office buildings begging for tenants. I called a number on one and the voice that answered said it was for sale: 3.6billion, seven-story building with a footprint of about 250sqm. "I see".
There is good hiding in evil and sometimes you don't even have to look too deeply to see it. Too many wealth in Nigeria is strictly in figures without any underlying source or feeder spring. If you got your money through work and creativity; if they put you in a desert, you will still replicate the feat.
What is called a recession in regular economics is but a dethronement of false money, the overthrow of pretenders and wealth built with the tip of a pen so that reality and productivity can take over. It is an inevitable passage if nature is correctly programmed.
In a hilarious circle I was told about a typical Abuja moneybag whose fortune has now turned around. He was in money - and you know what I mean. In height of his affluence he collected two more wives to make a total of three. But the noose had been getting tighter and, all streams gone dry, he applied for a loan from a bank. Not so well exposed to the hazard of seeking credit from Nigerian banks, he was exceedingly positive he will soon be credited and so went with gusto to the manager's office on an appointed day to get the final answer on his application.
When he was told that he had been turned down, he lost control of himself so completely that he pooped on himself right there in the bank. He was helped into the bathroom and offered a ton of tissues and when he had become manageable, they led him into a taxi and gave him a thousand naira to the bank's happy ending of the personal tragedy.
The story teaches us that wealth without foundation will end in sudden failure. It is not only Abuja or the typical, overweight Nigerian big man, Nigeria itself is a victim of lazy wealth: oil is not a result of hard work or creativity. We don't even as much as have local capacity to drill the oil! If we don't build our economy by adding value through processing and developing our human resources, we won't end up much better than that poor individual you just laughed at."
My view:
It is time to start building real and sustainable wealth, enough of what used to be...The difference between the poor and rich nations is not the age of the Nation. This can be demonstrated by countries like India and Egypt, which are more than 2000 years old and are still poor countries.
On the other hand, Canada, Australia and New Zealand, which 150 years back were insignificant, today are developed and rich countries.
The difference between the poor and rich nation does not also depend on the available natural resources.
Japan has limited territory, 80% mountainous, unsuitable for agriculture or farming, but is the second in worlds economy. The country is like an immense floating factory, importing raw material from the whole world and exporting manufactured products.
Second example is Switzerland, it does not grow cocoa but produces the best chocolates in the world. In her small territory she rears animals and cultivates the land only for four month in a year, nevertheless manufactures the best milk products. A small country which is an image of security which has made it the strongest world bank.
Executives from rich countries who interact with their counterparts from poor countries show no significant intellectual differences.
The racial or colour factors also do not evince importance: migrants heavy in laziness in their country of origin are forcefully productive in rich European countries.
What then is the difference?
The difference is the attitude of the people, moulded for many years by education and culture.
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When we analyse the conduct of the people from the rich and developed countries, it is observed that a majority abide by the following principles of life:
1. Ethics, as basic principles.
2. Integrity.
3. Responsibility.
4. The respect for Laws and Regulations.
5. The respect from majority of citizens by right.
6. The love for work.
7. The effort to save and invest.
8. The will to be productive.
9. Punctuality.
In the poor countries a small minority follow these basic principles in their daily life.
We are not poor because we lack natural resources or because nature was cruel towards us.
We are poor because we lack attitude. We lack the will to follow and teach these principles of working of rich and developed societies.
WE ARE IN THIS STATE BECAUSE
WE WANT TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OVER
EVRYTHING AND EVERYONE.
WE ARE IN THIS STATE BECAUSE
WE SEE SOMETHING DONE WRONG
AND SAY - “LET IT BE”
WE SHOULD HAVE A SPIRITED MEMORY
AND ATTITUDE…
ONLY THEN WILL WE BE ABLE TO CHANGE OUR PRESENT STATE.
If you do not share this message, nothing is going to happen to you. Your prized animal is not going to die, you wont be sacked from your job, you wont be having bad luck for seven years, nor are you going to get sick.
But, if you love your COUNTRY, try and circulate this message so that as many people may read and see what our problems are and hopefully move to change themselves to change the country.
ABMAKID.BLOGSPOT
Friday, 13 September 2019
Wednesday, 11 September 2019
Monday, 9 September 2019
Rise up Africa!!!!
*READ AND SHED TEARS*
"DONALD TRUMP'S SPEECH ON "RISE UP AFRICANS".
*They are good in nothing else but making noise, dancing, marrying many wives, alcoholism, witchcraft, indulging in sex, pretending in church, jealousy, fighting and complaining of bad leadership; but, yet refuse to take a decisive action and protest to remove the brigands from position of power.*
*Let us all accept the fact that the black man is a symbol of poverty, mental inferiority, laziness and emotional incompetence.To make the matter worse, he can do everything possible to defend his stupidity. Give them money for development and they will fight and create hatred and enmity for themselves. Drill oil wells for them and they will not have peace all the days of their life.*
*See, for instance, what's happening in Nigeria (a Country blessed with abundant resources), Southern Sudan, Malawi, DRC just to mention at few.*
*"This proves to anybody including a stupid fool that Africans do not know what they want. isn't that plausible"?*
*"They are like monkeys looking for already ripping banana all over the world!!!.*
*Therefore that the white man is created to rule the black man, Africans will always have day dreams.*
*And here is the creature (black man) that lacks foresight but only sees what is near him and still fails to know what to do"*
*A black man is stupid to the extent that he cannot plan for his life beyond a year. Therefore how can they develop and live longer.*
*"Corruption in the west (And China) is a big abomination, but in Africa, it's so huge that it is slowly becoming an acceptable way of life!!!.*(Shame, isn't it?)
*They sing and rejoice to their corrupt political leaders.They worship their scandal-ridden religious leaders like their gods. Lest you forget, these so called Africans are praising, dancing and praying for the people that have impoverished them,and who comes to hide their loot here.*
*Then which fool argues that the black man is not born a beggar, grows a beggar, looks a beggar, falls sick as a beggar and dies a beggar. this has been proven beyond reasoning.*
*I wonder why even up to now most Africans still go to school by force, and those who are at school are are just drug addicts who don't know what took them there. This is a pregnant stupidity in Africa. The body of Africans is a very fertile ground for all diseases in the world because they don't fear even HIV/AIDS.*
*This leaves me with a question: Are our eyes created the same with those Africans? I hear there are still cultures in Africa that prohibit them from using latrines which is very annoying.*
*"They cried for independence but have failed to rule themselves". For sure being African is a very untreatable disease that even prayers are not enough.*
*They have minerals but they cannot do anything with it. Therefore let us (whites) go to Africa and pick what we can pick and leave what is of no use. Poverty is a disease to the whites, but to the blacks it is very normal.*
*"Look at what is currently going on in Nigeria National Assembly. Legislators amending the constitution to favor themselves at the expense of two (200) million Nigerians. The present administration now have no economic blueprint plan, rather than noise and false propaganda. Characterised with hatred and witch hunt/impoverishment".*
*"Majority of these legislators are treasury looters who are intellectually barren but using the ill gotten wealth to oppress the citizens of that great country".*
*"What a shame"!*
*Black people with black sense, and a sick president in London for medical tourism!!!.*
*The worst tragedy in Africa is that if you dare stand up and speak up for what's right, you may end up regretting.*
*"The few wise and open-minded Africans who have tried to educate these fools about civilization have met the worst.They have been pushed hard on the wall, they have been silenced and others have been killed".*
*Before I finish, let me tell Africans that before you jump and call me a racist, an anti-blacks or whatever term you may wish to use against me,1st tackle runaway corruption, dreadful terrorism, tribalism, poverty, unemployment, diseases, illiteracy, ignorance, and inequality, that have put your whole continent on the verge of collapse".*
*"Hate me or love me, I don't care.I know this is the plain truth which will never see the light of the day to the cowards that are afraid to be told as it is".*
*By- Donald .J. Trump.*
*PLEASE SHARE WITH EVERY AFRICAN AND POLITICAL LEADERS SO THAT AFRICA IN OUR OWN TIME WILL EMERGE AN INDUSTRALISED CONTINENT TO PUT THE TRUMPS AND WHITE SUPREMACIST TO SHAME.*
*IF YOU READ THIS AND YOU ARE NOT CHALLENGED AS A HUMAN YOU ARE A BORN FOOL!*
#RISEUPAFRICA!L
"DONALD TRUMP'S SPEECH ON "RISE UP AFRICANS".
*They are good in nothing else but making noise, dancing, marrying many wives, alcoholism, witchcraft, indulging in sex, pretending in church, jealousy, fighting and complaining of bad leadership; but, yet refuse to take a decisive action and protest to remove the brigands from position of power.*
*Let us all accept the fact that the black man is a symbol of poverty, mental inferiority, laziness and emotional incompetence.To make the matter worse, he can do everything possible to defend his stupidity. Give them money for development and they will fight and create hatred and enmity for themselves. Drill oil wells for them and they will not have peace all the days of their life.*
*See, for instance, what's happening in Nigeria (a Country blessed with abundant resources), Southern Sudan, Malawi, DRC just to mention at few.*
*"This proves to anybody including a stupid fool that Africans do not know what they want. isn't that plausible"?*
*"They are like monkeys looking for already ripping banana all over the world!!!.*
*Therefore that the white man is created to rule the black man, Africans will always have day dreams.*
*And here is the creature (black man) that lacks foresight but only sees what is near him and still fails to know what to do"*
*A black man is stupid to the extent that he cannot plan for his life beyond a year. Therefore how can they develop and live longer.*
*"Corruption in the west (And China) is a big abomination, but in Africa, it's so huge that it is slowly becoming an acceptable way of life!!!.*(Shame, isn't it?)
*They sing and rejoice to their corrupt political leaders.They worship their scandal-ridden religious leaders like their gods. Lest you forget, these so called Africans are praising, dancing and praying for the people that have impoverished them,and who comes to hide their loot here.*
*Then which fool argues that the black man is not born a beggar, grows a beggar, looks a beggar, falls sick as a beggar and dies a beggar. this has been proven beyond reasoning.*
*I wonder why even up to now most Africans still go to school by force, and those who are at school are are just drug addicts who don't know what took them there. This is a pregnant stupidity in Africa. The body of Africans is a very fertile ground for all diseases in the world because they don't fear even HIV/AIDS.*
*This leaves me with a question: Are our eyes created the same with those Africans? I hear there are still cultures in Africa that prohibit them from using latrines which is very annoying.*
*"They cried for independence but have failed to rule themselves". For sure being African is a very untreatable disease that even prayers are not enough.*
*They have minerals but they cannot do anything with it. Therefore let us (whites) go to Africa and pick what we can pick and leave what is of no use. Poverty is a disease to the whites, but to the blacks it is very normal.*
*"Look at what is currently going on in Nigeria National Assembly. Legislators amending the constitution to favor themselves at the expense of two (200) million Nigerians. The present administration now have no economic blueprint plan, rather than noise and false propaganda. Characterised with hatred and witch hunt/impoverishment".*
*"Majority of these legislators are treasury looters who are intellectually barren but using the ill gotten wealth to oppress the citizens of that great country".*
*"What a shame"!*
*Black people with black sense, and a sick president in London for medical tourism!!!.*
*The worst tragedy in Africa is that if you dare stand up and speak up for what's right, you may end up regretting.*
*"The few wise and open-minded Africans who have tried to educate these fools about civilization have met the worst.They have been pushed hard on the wall, they have been silenced and others have been killed".*
*Before I finish, let me tell Africans that before you jump and call me a racist, an anti-blacks or whatever term you may wish to use against me,1st tackle runaway corruption, dreadful terrorism, tribalism, poverty, unemployment, diseases, illiteracy, ignorance, and inequality, that have put your whole continent on the verge of collapse".*
*"Hate me or love me, I don't care.I know this is the plain truth which will never see the light of the day to the cowards that are afraid to be told as it is".*
*By- Donald .J. Trump.*
*PLEASE SHARE WITH EVERY AFRICAN AND POLITICAL LEADERS SO THAT AFRICA IN OUR OWN TIME WILL EMERGE AN INDUSTRALISED CONTINENT TO PUT THE TRUMPS AND WHITE SUPREMACIST TO SHAME.*
*IF YOU READ THIS AND YOU ARE NOT CHALLENGED AS A HUMAN YOU ARE A BORN FOOL!*
#RISEUPAFRICA!L
Sunday, 8 September 2019
Food for thought
Good afternoon everyone,
FOOD OF THOUGHT
1. It is the you in you that makes you the you you want to be, so develop that you in you so that you can move down the path of sucess！！！ （DR BEN CARSON）
2. T- Talent/Time; Recognize them as gift
H- Hope for good thing and be honest.
I- In-sight from good and good books
N- Be Nice to all people
K- knowledge: Recignize it as the key to living.
B- Books: Read them actively
I- In-depth learning skills: Develop them
G- God: Never get too big for him
BY MUSTAPHA ABDULRAHMON（MARS）
You have the great ability in you want to go. You have to believe great things are going to happen in your life. Do everything you can-prepare,pray and achive -to it happen （DR BEN CARSON）
Nobody can hinder you from doing what you want, If that's what you set your mind to. you can always find a hook to hang excuses on, but they're only excuses. You don't have anyone to blame but yourself. Nobody else makes you fail. Don't give excuse any chance in your life. （MARS）
THANKS ALOT
FOOD OF THOUGHT
1. It is the you in you that makes you the you you want to be, so develop that you in you so that you can move down the path of sucess！！！ （DR BEN CARSON）
2. T- Talent/Time; Recognize them as gift
H- Hope for good thing and be honest.
I- In-sight from good and good books
N- Be Nice to all people
K- knowledge: Recignize it as the key to living.
B- Books: Read them actively
I- In-depth learning skills: Develop them
G- God: Never get too big for him
BY MUSTAPHA ABDULRAHMON（MARS）
You have the great ability in you want to go. You have to believe great things are going to happen in your life. Do everything you can-prepare,pray and achive -to it happen （DR BEN CARSON）
Nobody can hinder you from doing what you want, If that's what you set your mind to. you can always find a hook to hang excuses on, but they're only excuses. You don't have anyone to blame but yourself. Nobody else makes you fail. Don't give excuse any chance in your life. （MARS）
THANKS ALOT
LIFE CYCLE OF corruption IN NIGERIA
*HEADMASTER:* how much is passport photograph for children?
*PHOTOGRAPHER:* the price for the passport is N100 per child
*HEADMASTER:* No, the pupils are 500 in number, so we are paying N50
*PHOTOGRAPHER:* ok no problem sir, you can pay N50 each since they are many
*HEADMASTER:* class teacher go & inform the pupils that they should bring N150 each tomorrow for the passports.
*CLASS-TEACHER:* ok sir, i will inform them right away
*CLASS-TEACHER:* Good day pupils, you are all to come with N200 tomorrow for passports.
*PUPIL:* Mummy we were asked to bring N300 for passport at school
*MUMMY*: Father, your son was asked to come to sch with N500 passport fee tomorrow.
*FATHER:* OOH My God. BUHARI make things costly day by day, including education. We have said it, this man is wicked.
```Moral lesson: 'LET THE CHANGE BEGIN WITH YOU AND I'. Honesty and be sincere to all that we need to make this country a better place!
Pls forward this to all your friends, colleagues, groups & all Nigerians. Think about it. Change begin with YOU, Change your motives and ur thought. Everything Buhari, Buhari, Buhari.
_*Thanks for being a good Nigerian*_
*PHOTOGRAPHER:* the price for the passport is N100 per child
*HEADMASTER:* No, the pupils are 500 in number, so we are paying N50
*PHOTOGRAPHER:* ok no problem sir, you can pay N50 each since they are many
*HEADMASTER:* class teacher go & inform the pupils that they should bring N150 each tomorrow for the passports.
*CLASS-TEACHER:* ok sir, i will inform them right away
*CLASS-TEACHER:* Good day pupils, you are all to come with N200 tomorrow for passports.
*PUPIL:* Mummy we were asked to bring N300 for passport at school
*MUMMY*: Father, your son was asked to come to sch with N500 passport fee tomorrow.
*FATHER:* OOH My God. BUHARI make things costly day by day, including education. We have said it, this man is wicked.
```Moral lesson: 'LET THE CHANGE BEGIN WITH YOU AND I'. Honesty and be sincere to all that we need to make this country a better place!
Pls forward this to all your friends, colleagues, groups & all Nigerians. Think about it. Change begin with YOU, Change your motives and ur thought. Everything Buhari, Buhari, Buhari.
_*Thanks for being a good Nigerian*_
Saturday, 7 September 2019
THE RATE OF SUICIDE IN OUR PRESENT SOCIETY.
There have been several reported cases of suicide but the trend has dramatically increased in the last few years. More teenagers are taking their lives especially through poisoning themselves .
The question here is ' Why'?.
Suicide is the act of intentionally causing one's own death. it is a situation in which an individual decides to end his /her own life . It is perceived by some people as a means through which they can escape from pains and sufferings.
It is no longer news that this act has received wide condemnation even from our religious leaders and some of them have dubbed this act to be ' sacrilegious' and totally against the commandments of God.
Researchers and intellectuals have tried to proffer explanations as to why suicide has become the order of the day especially among the youths. Below are some of the factors that can account for the persistence Of this act in our society today.
There are several factors responsible for suicide in our society today. Some suicides are impulsive acts due to stress such as from financial difficulties,troubles with relationships or bullying ,or also being neglected by the society or loved one's.
Prior to our contemporary society ,Nigerians were said to have a kind of strange resistance to committing suicide or having sucidal thoughts,they had a way of guarding their lives no matter what hardship or what circumstance it is that they encountered. The question here is What happened to the bond and the spirit of brotherhood that existed among Nigerians .Has the acclaimed forefathers blood which runs pumping hope and determination in the body system dried up?
The preponderance of cases of suicide indicates that a once abominable act is being fancied among Nigerian youths . Otherwise , how could four Nigerians kill themselves in a space of four weeks over issues the older generation weathered through without somewhat expressing discomfort ? Faced with the ugly development, the question on the lips of concerned stakeholders is : What has gone wrong with Nigeria ’ s millennials?
It is often wondered why this act persists despite the awareness of its dark sides. It is pertinent to also state the fact that suicide is not 'Gender based' neither is it 'Age based'; men,women, children and adults are inclusive. While research has shown that peer pressure, depression and the effect of social media are known to be the major cause of many youth committing suicide but for adults;the case is almost complicated;might be a paradigm shift,divorce, depression and many other range of options,if not why else would a middle aged man with a wife three lovely kids leave home for work,only to found hanging from a rope in his office's store later that day cold and dead leaving note saying"I'm finally free".His family and acquaintances till now never had an inkling of why he decided to kill himself,According to them he was the perfect example of a "contented man".So why he took his life remains an enigma to them.
Some social psychologist are of the view that people who engage in suicide lacks emotional intelligence. A situation in which an individual cannot control his/her emotions over a certain matter or situation. For example A 300level student who killed herself because she failed 8 courses out of the 9 courses she offered in a semester .They are of the view that such a person lacks emotional intelligence, she lacks the ability to control her emotion .she is said to have low self esteem about herself, she have negative .
A case of attempted suicide by a 2019 UTME candidate in Ogun State was also reported on May 13 . The candidate is identified as Segun reportedly attempted suicide by drinking Sniper after he discovering that he scored 167 in the exams. He was reportedly infuriated that he would lose the chance to acquire tertiary education , which a kind Nigerian had offered him . The offer had come after he narrated the story of his life on his Twitter handle @ TweetsOfSHEGUN , on October 4 , 2018 , where he explained how he lost his father at six and his mother had to cater to four children alone .
Almost 99% of individuals all have conflicts,challenges and battles they do face everyday .It might be in form of pressures from work,school, society or even from oneself .And of course as they are different stokes for different folks, different individuals has different method of dealing with these conflicts and for some people;the answer is sadly suicide.
Now , the social media , for instance , harps on virtual relationships. It has created even more distance from among members of the same family. You see husband and wife in the house not talking to each other because they are engrossed in the social media . You don't know whatever their discussion would be . So , to a large extent, the unregulated social media in Nigerian environment is also contributing in creating isolation . You know there is cyber bullying. So, the social media much as it has positive values , when unregulated and uncontrolled at the family level , can also be a basis for disaffection , isolation and individualism all of which combine to predispose people to taking the kind of actions that are detrimental as we are seeing in the case of suicide .
The rate of suicide in Nigeria has grown to an alarming rate and its effect like a veracious monster devouring its prey is devastating;dimming the light of great minds , making children orphans, parents childless and the society in state of confusion. What can then be done to stop this ravaging monster called suicide from preying on more people? what must be done to stop the unexpected,the uncalled death of the people close to us ?
Recently it was reported that Temitope Saka, a 17 - year- old girl , died after drinking insecticide , Sniper , in the Igando area of Lagos State . It was reported that when Saka became pregnant , her grandma insisted she packed out of the house . A national daily reported that the victim drank the poison and began foaming in the mouth at her boyfriend ’ s house . She was rushed to the Igando General Hospital where she died. And many other cases that have been reported by the media.
. The rate of suicide today could have been largely reduced if people could open up more and share their problems with people who care and are ready to listen.
It could have been reduced if people never allowed the world to define them. Not letting people’s opinions change who and what they love, or how they act. Not allowing harsh words to hold them back , or criticisms keep them stagnant. People should never allow themselves to be changed for the wrong reasons Not making the world trick or mold them into thinking suicide is the best option.
Chief Executive Officer ( CEO ) of Therapy Consult , Lagos, Salem Pat Ogulowo , identified depression and unresolved grief as the major causes of suicide among the youths . A United Kingdom trained mental health psychotherapist and grief counsellor , said it was disheartening when she returned home two years ago and discovered that Nigerians , who once loved life
and detested suicide , had started taking their own lives , including youths .
Her words : “ No child in his right senses would want to terminate his / her own life . The social media is an influence; no doubt about it . But you see , there is nothing good about depression . It ’ s something that when it ’ s there, you go to bed feeling good and the next morning you just find out that you are not yourself . Depression that becomes clinical craves death i . e . suicidal adulation and then suicide itself . And the route to depression is unresolved grief . May be somebody you look up to suddenly died and you just feel that your life cannot go on . Unresolved grief could also arise from anger , abuse, bullying , and peer pressure which the youths are facing these days . She also opined that the government have a role to play in reducing the rate of suicide in Nigeria. In her words “ I also think that as parents we should learn to befriend our children. We should learn to study them, know their moods and their body language . These youths who committed suicide didn ’ t just wake up one morning to do it . It ’ s been in motion . It is something that they took time to plan . So , parents who allow their children to enjoy that so - called independence should ask their children the difficult questions that most of us are running from. “ When you notice that a child is moody , deeply sad , withdrawn or is either gaining weight or losing weight , ask the difficult question . And what is the difficult question ? The difficult question is : Are you planning to take your own life ? Asking that question would make the child feel that somebody already knows about the plan and that could make them to abandon the plot, ” Ogulowo said . She added : “ Also , the government should establish a suicide prevention hotline . They have this overseas and I think we need one in this country right now. Life can be saved through that . The government should also attach psychotherapists to hospitals and clinics. Most individuals who display psychological illnesses or issues are often medicalised . That is where people like us come in because some of them don ’ t require any medicine . A lot of them just want somebody who will listen to them, somebody they can trust and confide in . I know schools these days have counsellors . Also , teachers and counsellors in our schools should join the parents in asking the difficult question when they notice a child behaving abnormally . Teachers should no longer look away because of the abuses that come from some parents . ”
Although the truth is nobody ever really knows how much anybody else is hurting, we could be standing next to someone who is completely broken, and we wouldn't even know it, we might never know who is thinking about suicide and not able to talk about it because we don't really know what someone else is going through. But this monster called suicide can also be dealt with by not judging others action, if we notice any signs of pain, tiredness,hostility, negativity,or even oversensitivity, we need to respond to their pain by giving a word of hope instead of judging their sign.
However As long as we keep chasing what we love, as long as we keep listening to our heart and believing in ourselves and our dreams,we can, and will change the world.suicide is never the answer of any problem. Think Big.
(C) abmakid.blogspot
There have been several reported cases of suicide but the trend has dramatically increased in the last few years. More teenagers are taking their lives especially through poisoning themselves .
The question here is ' Why'?.
Suicide is the act of intentionally causing one's own death. it is a situation in which an individual decides to end his /her own life . It is perceived by some people as a means through which they can escape from pains and sufferings.
It is no longer news that this act has received wide condemnation even from our religious leaders and some of them have dubbed this act to be ' sacrilegious' and totally against the commandments of God.
Researchers and intellectuals have tried to proffer explanations as to why suicide has become the order of the day especially among the youths. Below are some of the factors that can account for the persistence Of this act in our society today.
There are several factors responsible for suicide in our society today. Some suicides are impulsive acts due to stress such as from financial difficulties,troubles with relationships or bullying ,or also being neglected by the society or loved one's.
Prior to our contemporary society ,Nigerians were said to have a kind of strange resistance to committing suicide or having sucidal thoughts,they had a way of guarding their lives no matter what hardship or what circumstance it is that they encountered. The question here is What happened to the bond and the spirit of brotherhood that existed among Nigerians .Has the acclaimed forefathers blood which runs pumping hope and determination in the body system dried up?
The preponderance of cases of suicide indicates that a once abominable act is being fancied among Nigerian youths . Otherwise , how could four Nigerians kill themselves in a space of four weeks over issues the older generation weathered through without somewhat expressing discomfort ? Faced with the ugly development, the question on the lips of concerned stakeholders is : What has gone wrong with Nigeria ’ s millennials?
It is often wondered why this act persists despite the awareness of its dark sides. It is pertinent to also state the fact that suicide is not 'Gender based' neither is it 'Age based'; men,women, children and adults are inclusive. While research has shown that peer pressure, depression and the effect of social media are known to be the major cause of many youth committing suicide but for adults;the case is almost complicated;might be a paradigm shift,divorce, depression and many other range of options,if not why else would a middle aged man with a wife three lovely kids leave home for work,only to found hanging from a rope in his office's store later that day cold and dead leaving note saying"I'm finally free".His family and acquaintances till now never had an inkling of why he decided to kill himself,According to them he was the perfect example of a "contented man".So why he took his life remains an enigma to them.
Some social psychologist are of the view that people who engage in suicide lacks emotional intelligence. A situation in which an individual cannot control his/her emotions over a certain matter or situation. For example A 300level student who killed herself because she failed 8 courses out of the 9 courses she offered in a semester .They are of the view that such a person lacks emotional intelligence, she lacks the ability to control her emotion .she is said to have low self esteem about herself, she have negative .
A case of attempted suicide by a 2019 UTME candidate in Ogun State was also reported on May 13 . The candidate is identified as Segun reportedly attempted suicide by drinking Sniper after he discovering that he scored 167 in the exams. He was reportedly infuriated that he would lose the chance to acquire tertiary education , which a kind Nigerian had offered him . The offer had come after he narrated the story of his life on his Twitter handle @ TweetsOfSHEGUN , on October 4 , 2018 , where he explained how he lost his father at six and his mother had to cater to four children alone .
Almost 99% of individuals all have conflicts,challenges and battles they do face everyday .It might be in form of pressures from work,school, society or even from oneself .And of course as they are different stokes for different folks, different individuals has different method of dealing with these conflicts and for some people;the answer is sadly suicide.
Now , the social media , for instance , harps on virtual relationships. It has created even more distance from among members of the same family. You see husband and wife in the house not talking to each other because they are engrossed in the social media . You don't know whatever their discussion would be . So , to a large extent, the unregulated social media in Nigerian environment is also contributing in creating isolation . You know there is cyber bullying. So, the social media much as it has positive values , when unregulated and uncontrolled at the family level , can also be a basis for disaffection , isolation and individualism all of which combine to predispose people to taking the kind of actions that are detrimental as we are seeing in the case of suicide .
The rate of suicide in Nigeria has grown to an alarming rate and its effect like a veracious monster devouring its prey is devastating;dimming the light of great minds , making children orphans, parents childless and the society in state of confusion. What can then be done to stop this ravaging monster called suicide from preying on more people? what must be done to stop the unexpected,the uncalled death of the people close to us ?
Recently it was reported that Temitope Saka, a 17 - year- old girl , died after drinking insecticide , Sniper , in the Igando area of Lagos State . It was reported that when Saka became pregnant , her grandma insisted she packed out of the house . A national daily reported that the victim drank the poison and began foaming in the mouth at her boyfriend ’ s house . She was rushed to the Igando General Hospital where she died. And many other cases that have been reported by the media.
. The rate of suicide today could have been largely reduced if people could open up more and share their problems with people who care and are ready to listen.
It could have been reduced if people never allowed the world to define them. Not letting people’s opinions change who and what they love, or how they act. Not allowing harsh words to hold them back , or criticisms keep them stagnant. People should never allow themselves to be changed for the wrong reasons Not making the world trick or mold them into thinking suicide is the best option.
Chief Executive Officer ( CEO ) of Therapy Consult , Lagos, Salem Pat Ogulowo , identified depression and unresolved grief as the major causes of suicide among the youths . A United Kingdom trained mental health psychotherapist and grief counsellor , said it was disheartening when she returned home two years ago and discovered that Nigerians , who once loved life
and detested suicide , had started taking their own lives , including youths .
Her words : “ No child in his right senses would want to terminate his / her own life . The social media is an influence; no doubt about it . But you see , there is nothing good about depression . It ’ s something that when it ’ s there, you go to bed feeling good and the next morning you just find out that you are not yourself . Depression that becomes clinical craves death i . e . suicidal adulation and then suicide itself . And the route to depression is unresolved grief . May be somebody you look up to suddenly died and you just feel that your life cannot go on . Unresolved grief could also arise from anger , abuse, bullying , and peer pressure which the youths are facing these days . She also opined that the government have a role to play in reducing the rate of suicide in Nigeria. In her words “ I also think that as parents we should learn to befriend our children. We should learn to study them, know their moods and their body language . These youths who committed suicide didn ’ t just wake up one morning to do it . It ’ s been in motion . It is something that they took time to plan . So , parents who allow their children to enjoy that so - called independence should ask their children the difficult questions that most of us are running from. “ When you notice that a child is moody , deeply sad , withdrawn or is either gaining weight or losing weight , ask the difficult question . And what is the difficult question ? The difficult question is : Are you planning to take your own life ? Asking that question would make the child feel that somebody already knows about the plan and that could make them to abandon the plot, ” Ogulowo said . She added : “ Also , the government should establish a suicide prevention hotline . They have this overseas and I think we need one in this country right now. Life can be saved through that . The government should also attach psychotherapists to hospitals and clinics. Most individuals who display psychological illnesses or issues are often medicalised . That is where people like us come in because some of them don ’ t require any medicine . A lot of them just want somebody who will listen to them, somebody they can trust and confide in . I know schools these days have counsellors . Also , teachers and counsellors in our schools should join the parents in asking the difficult question when they notice a child behaving abnormally . Teachers should no longer look away because of the abuses that come from some parents . ”
Although the truth is nobody ever really knows how much anybody else is hurting, we could be standing next to someone who is completely broken, and we wouldn't even know it, we might never know who is thinking about suicide and not able to talk about it because we don't really know what someone else is going through. But this monster called suicide can also be dealt with by not judging others action, if we notice any signs of pain, tiredness,hostility, negativity,or even oversensitivity, we need to respond to their pain by giving a word of hope instead of judging their sign.
However As long as we keep chasing what we love, as long as we keep listening to our heart and believing in ourselves and our dreams,we can, and will change the world.suicide is never the answer of any problem. Think Big.
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Thursday, 5 September 2019
LAUGH MATTERS WITH DR LEE
1.Las Las school no be scam because I can still remember the 3 types of soil. Standing soil, Loaning soil and Claiming soil.
😂😂😂😂
2. Break up💔 can really damage your health. I remember the time my babe break up with me while I was on my way to pick my nephew in Pre-school, I came home with a wrong child🙆♂🤣🤣🤣🤣
3. Who else while growing up once wished spider bite ur hand so u cn become spider man🤣🤣🤣🤣
4.There are People Who lie so much That Even If You See Them In Hell They Will Tell You: "I Came To see Someone" 🙆♂🙆
5. Somebody can not dial wrong number in this country and a celebrity or a politician picks, must it always be an abokki man?😢😢😓😓
6.Nothing breaks my heart like my neighbour who has an ugly daughter and keep calling me my inlaw... Can u imagine??*
🙆🏻♂🙆🏻♂🙆🏻♂😏
7.In Nigeria, we don't measure salt while cooking, we just sprinkle it til d spirit of our ancestors whispers
"Its okay my child"😂
8.You cannot reject food in your own house because you are angry with your wife.*
*Firstly, The wife is yours, 2ndly, the food is yours and finally, the anger is yours.*
*So Whatever you chose to do with them is up to you.😊transfer the anger to the food and eat the food angrily.*🤣
9.No matter how cute u are, u will always look stupid when eating SUGARCANE 😂😂😂😂
10. No matter the amount of weed Satan smokes. he can never be the most high 👆
11.It's sad you will text a girl from an iPhone X and she'll ignore with infinix or techno, at least respect the source BIKO 😑.😂💔
😂😂😂
12. My brother hustle hard ooo, make you no use iPhone ringtone for Nokia 310😂😂😂😂
1.Las Las school no be scam because I can still remember the 3 types of soil. Standing soil, Loaning soil and Claiming soil.
😂😂😂😂
2. Break up💔 can really damage your health. I remember the time my babe break up with me while I was on my way to pick my nephew in Pre-school, I came home with a wrong child🙆♂🤣🤣🤣🤣
3. Who else while growing up once wished spider bite ur hand so u cn become spider man🤣🤣🤣🤣
4.There are People Who lie so much That Even If You See Them In Hell They Will Tell You: "I Came To see Someone" 🙆♂🙆
5. Somebody can not dial wrong number in this country and a celebrity or a politician picks, must it always be an abokki man?😢😢😓😓
6.Nothing breaks my heart like my neighbour who has an ugly daughter and keep calling me my inlaw... Can u imagine??*
🙆🏻♂🙆🏻♂🙆🏻♂😏
7.In Nigeria, we don't measure salt while cooking, we just sprinkle it til d spirit of our ancestors whispers
"Its okay my child"😂
8.You cannot reject food in your own house because you are angry with your wife.*
*Firstly, The wife is yours, 2ndly, the food is yours and finally, the anger is yours.*
*So Whatever you chose to do with them is up to you.😊transfer the anger to the food and eat the food angrily.*🤣
9.No matter how cute u are, u will always look stupid when eating SUGARCANE 😂😂😂😂
10. No matter the amount of weed Satan smokes. he can never be the most high 👆
11.It's sad you will text a girl from an iPhone X and she'll ignore with infinix or techno, at least respect the source BIKO 😑.😂💔
😂😂😂
12. My brother hustle hard ooo, make you no use iPhone ringtone for Nokia 310😂😂😂😂
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